Module 1: FAQ’s

FAQs OF MODULE 1:

  1. Our child is a month old and he is unable to sleep through the night and be awake in the mornings. I have tried everything to reverse his sleep cycle, but in vain. Help.

It takes a couple of months for the new born child to adopt a proper routine. Be patient and continue to do what ever you are doing regarding his feeds, napping and other activities. He will slowly change his sleep pattern soon.

  1. Our child is 8 months old and he has been a bit slow in his milestones. He rolled over when he was 6months old, and now trying to crawl. Is it a cause for worry or should I ignore?

Actually, meet your pediatrician and share this information with him. He may be able to identify physiological reasons for this delay, if any. Although each child takes his time to reach the milestones, it is advisable not to ignore these signs.

These delays could also be happening, if the parent is not very interactive with the child, is carrying him all the time, not leaving him long enough to let him explore etc. Try interacting with him and encourage him to try to do things.  Everyone at home should be interacting with him.

  1.  How to instill good habits in children, like brushing teeth, bathing and cutting nails, combing hair etc. I find that my son who is a year and a half resists all these activities. Help.

First of all find out whether the child is trying to attract your attention by this behavior of his. If that is the case, then you know that you need to give him that much time and attention to make him feel comfortable.

Secondly, if you are giving him too many instructions, the child becomes deaf to the voice telling him do this and do that. It is important that the mother connects with the child and observes why and what is causing this behavior. Respect his wish where ever you can and allow him to have his way. Try to inculcate these habits slowly, by talking to him about the importance of such habits and the consequences of not following them, in short, so that they slowly understand the need for such activities.

You could also buy him a new tooth brush of a color/shape he prefers, allow him to enjoy the bath, sitting in a little water filled in a small tub, use a soft hair brush to comb his hair etc, which will possibly attract him to these activities.

  1. Everyday our daughter insists on going to the park to play. Once there, she wants to go home immediately. What could be the cause of this kind of behavior, she is 2yrs old?

Find out if it is because there are many older children, their vigorous actions and noise they create, or some incident that happened there that put her off. Some incidents can cause a fear in a child’s mind. Find out if there is some such cause and assure her that you will be with her at the park.

If she has had no prior experience of interaction with other children, she could insecure in such company.

To overcome these issues, encourage her to play with you, only for a few minutes in the park. Your child could also be shy, so respect her nature and allow her to play in a place at the park where she is most comfortable, be it in the company of a few children or just with you.

  1. Our daughter is unable to overcome separation anxiety when I go to leave her at playschool. How can I help her?

If the mother is working, then this is one way a child is seeking her attention. If the mother is not working and  is spending all her time with her child, then obviously the child is not used to the mother’s absence… it is important for the mother to have some time for herself right from the beginning and the child will understand this.

Now, that she is going to start schooling, prepare her for your absence. Leave her for a few minutes in a room at home, and be in the kitchen, or read a book or do some other activity. Inform your child as to where you will be and what you would be doing. Slowly increase the amount of time you leave your child with her activity. You could just check on her once in a while, but take care not to go and sit with her.

It is also important how the parent feels leaving the child. If you are anxious, then, the child senses this anxiety and reacts by refusing to leave you and go to school.

Talk to the teacher at the school and leave the child at school for a little time at a convenient hour, when she can interact with the teacher alone and build a rapport with her. Slowly increase the amount of time she spends with the teacher at school. Once this relationship is well established, your child’s insecurities will start coming down.

  1. Our son complains that there is nothing he wants to do at school and he is bored, so he doesn’t want to go. What could be the reason?

Actually he may be not bored. It may be something else. He may not be comfortable, may not have friends, there might have been some bullying or teasing incidents or there are so many toys, electronic gadgets etc at home, that he feels school is taking him away from all that, as he sees that at school it is only writing or reading or learning.

It also happens with children from homes where there are no rules. Child feels like he is tied down by rules at school. He may not say all these things.

Whatever is the reason, or the incident, the child has to understand he has to go to school. Find out the cause and help him to identify the positive experiences at school be it the activities, friends or the teachers.

Once in a way a child can skip school. Allow him that freedom, as long as it is not very frequent. Do not push the child in the morning to get ready, have breakfast etc, telling him that you have other things to catch up once he leaves to school; it is a big mood stopper for him. Allow him a good 9 to 10 hours of sleep in the night and wake him up early, say by 6.30 am, so as to facilitate his activities slowly and not hurry him up.

Let him invite friends from school, to your home. It is important for him to also bond with his classmates, so give him more opportunity to do so outside the school too.